While reading the text, I am becoming more interested, because I am able to
compare my life with some of the findings I read about in the book. One thing I
connected with the most was "family trouble" on page 362, because
this actually verified and informed me of why my parents and family was always
so tense and out of control. As many people today would think is common sense-
if you are having low income and financial problems that leads to more conflict
with your husband/wife and kids. To me, I never put two and two together and
realized that our main family trouble was our money. My family had money
troubles their whole life but when I was little I never knew thats where their
conflict was deriving from. In the book it states that having financial trouble
leads to high conflict, and also how you react in certain ways. They use a
great example of a kid spilling his milk and in a functioning family they would
show the kid how to mop up the spill, while a stressed family would revert to
pouring a new cup of milk and promoting family harmony. In this paragraph they
also state how financial problems can affect the development of your kid, by
becoming hostile to the kids and also with the partners. This made me compare
to my life and now understand why my family really didn't get along and how
everything fell apart, due to their strain and stress about money. It is
harmful for children especially when the parents fight, and hearing this and
seeing this was a good way to understand some concepts in my life. I liked this
chapter and this section because I was able to get some answers I had my whole
life and one of them being why did my parents fight all the time and be so
stressed out. I now know that financial problems makes matters worse and also
puts strain on both the partners trying to function under one roof.
Growing up, my family was a low income family because my dad was working on his career in the Navy and didn't make much and there are three of us, so my mom didn't work so she could take care of us. During those early years, there were times we saw my parents fight and it caused tension because they were just trying to figure out how to make ends meet until the next paycheck. I also found the other portion of the "Family Trouble" section on page 362/63. It states that there are problems caused from high-income families as well. The parental pressure to excel, and the internalization and externalization of that pressure leading to drug use, deliquency and poor academic performance in high school.
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