Chapter 19 Post 1 "Dimensions of Love"

This week I wanted to post on the “Dimensions on love” which could be found on page 529 at the bottom in our textbook. The reason I picked dimensions of love this week is because I found this to be extremely interesting and I personally never heard of dimensions of love. I liked this section of the chapter because love is one of my favorite topics, and I liked how they only divided this into three parts of love.  This was something short, simple and gave clear understandings rather than making love out to be a million definitions. The first dimension is passion, and passion is when it is evident that you are “falling in love.”  Passion can also be described as emotional excitement, physical and cognitive and other emotional aspects. I found this to be interesting because I never hear anyone use the term passionate now a days or 100% knew what it means. I also learned that when you are in this passionate stage your hormones and neurons are activated. I also like the quote they corporate at the end that says “falling in love is absolutely no way of getting to know someone” (Lieberman,2006). I agree with that statement, because I do not know a lot of people, including myself, to really get to know someone. I feel that a lot of people rush into relationships and that’s why they end early, because they did not take the time to meet them; they fell too fast. The following dimension is intimacy, which counts for knowing each other well, sharing secrets and sex.  Which is another thing that was interesting to me because I usually just think as intimacy as sex, not knowing each other well or sharing secrets. The final dimension is commitment and here caring the traditional love and marriage.  This grows through decisions you make together, shared possessions and forgiveness, and maintaining a close romantic relationship. (Fincham et al., 2007). I liked this part especially because this gives a great definition of commitment, because now a days I feel people just think as commitment as a long term relationship but not all the aspects that come with it. I liked this section of the chapter because this is one of the topics I like and I loved the clear description of what passion, intimacy, and commitment really are, not what we think it means.