Chapter 19 Post 2

Hey guys! Sorry for the late post, apparently someone has been trying to hack into my g-mail account along with any websites I use with g-mail. I had to talk to customer service yesterday and they helped me all out with it but it took a day. This has been happening pretty recently, due to a virus I have on my computer so I have to change my password frequently. Once again, sorry about that.

Now moving on to my second post for this week, to "Finding Each Other and Living Together" which correlates also with my post from this week with how social media affects relationships. My facts, statements and ideas are evolved from page 531 in our textbook. In the paragraph “Finding Each Other and Living Together” it tells and shows us that people are connected to the internet now, not only relying on it for information, but also relying on it to help us find love. There are both negatives and positives when it comes to love online; it gives you a variety of many different partners, however it can also give you choice overload. Choice overload is “when social networking may produce too many potential partners.” (Berger, 531).  Choice overload can make you have second thoughts and actually make you not want to make a decision. I thought this was interesting because I never heard of choice overload when it comes to finding potential mates online. This can make it hard on someone trying to find a potential mate because they cannot chose and make this harder for them. I also wanted to state that social media is affecting how we meet people, again, in both good and bad ways. I think it is great that we can meet people online because sometimes it is hard to meet in person, but I also want to note that since it is so easy to meet someone online, it diminishes the role of meeting someone in person. I was saying in my last discussion post I think a lot of marriages and relationships are not lasting because a lot of people are not getting to know each other properly. I know a few people who met online and have gotten married and it hasn't worked. I know today some people are fine and meet their soul mate but I think online dating diminishes our social contact and doesn't promote social contact with others. Online is a different story than in person and meeting. A statement to support my view on this is “A problem with such matches is that passion is hard to assess without meeting in person.” (Berger, 531). Bringing into topic the three dimensions of love: passion, intimacy, and commitment…I think it is hard for people to create these boundaries of love as strongly when they have been talking online and not leading up to these dimensions in getting to know each other in person. Another section that should be noted is that meeting online leads to sometimes disappointment in a person. This is so because many people look different in pictures and may act a certain way and then see each other and don’t like each other. Which could lead to hurt, defeat, self-esteem problems and rejection just from the different expectations that were set online. Overall, I chose this topic because I think social media has a big impact on how people meet each other. I think meeting people online has both its ups and downs, but I generally think that it will affect an upcoming relationship differently if they were not meeting in person.