chapter 19

This entire chapter was interesting to me. Something that I noticed that I have experienced first hand were the male-female relationships. Within my 20 years living life here in Pennsylvania, I have had many male friends. I have also had boyfriends that have been had many female friends. In my first relationship, I was young and very trusting. I said it was going to last forever but I knew it wasn't. I was okay with him hanging out with other girls. Our relationship was based on liking each others personality and having our first kiss ect. It was not a sexual relationship so I wasn't thinking that cheating was something that would occur. After breaking up and growing up, I had gotten into a second relationship. In the beginning I was also very lenient and trusting. I let him do as he pleased and go out to the bars and hangout with girls. As our relationship started to become more serious and were we more committed, passionate and intimate, my thoughts changed. I realized that I only want him to be this way with me and got jealous when he had close female friends. This part of the chapter said that exactly. Once people start to think that every male-female relationship is sexual, it is hard not to think about what could happen. Contrary to the to the study on legal polygamy in countries, if polygamy was common in the United States, I think I would be less jealous and more people would have multiple spouses. It surprised me that 90% of marriages are still monogamous even in those countries. I found that cute. It kind of proves that love does exist. If you have the opportunity to do something or be with multiple people without consequences and still do not because your whole heart belongs to someone, that's precious. That's commitment and love.